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camilla_reads t1_j6hrvlq wrote

I've read I think four of her books... It Ends With Us, Ugly Love, Verity and Layla. They were all very easy to read as her writing style is accessible and not complex at all. I found I preferred her thrillers (Verity/Layla) over the others which had been hyped up as romance. I have a problem with any of her books being advertised as romance because I feel they normalise really toxic behaviour from men and romanticise abusive relationships - and I don't just mean Ryle and Lily in IEWU. She is VERY good at writing incredibly unlikeable characters, which is why her thrillers appealed to me more. I think she's overhyped in all honesty and that her fanbase can be a bit intense sometimes.

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camilla_reads t1_j6hrhx6 wrote

Yes! This was my major issue with IEWU too, I wanted actual repercussions for Ryle's behaviour. But instead it's some schmaltzy ending? Miss me with that. CoHo had a chance to tell a story about a woman finding the strength to report her abusive husband to the cops and prosecute him and instead she somehow romanticised it all to the point that people on TikTok are talking about how hot Ryle is and how he should be forgiven.

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mzk24601 t1_j6hqs66 wrote

everything seems like an unreasonable bar to the point it feels like a strawman.

It seems likely this is more about studying and not just simply reading.

No matter your methodology, you wont retain anything even close to "everything" in in a single pass.

Its also very likely many people think they remember far more than they actually do.

Without continued effort it all fades into irrelevance anyway.

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honestlyicba t1_j6hps1u wrote

I’ve read five of her books ( I think) back when I was coming out of a reading slump and her books were all over the internet.

The emotional and physical abuse (not just present in It Ends With Us) really disturbed me but I read it while highlighting all the worse red flags from the characters.

It Ends With Us was supposed to have some moral message but it got completely lost ok me when the abusive husband literally have little to no consequence. Sure Lily stood up for herself at the end but like why doesn’t what’s his name Ryle? Kyle? get any real life consequences other than a divorce.

It is super disturbing and unsatisfying to read. I wanted him to go to jail.

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honestlyicba t1_j6hpfjx wrote

I want to tell you that I had a 3 year reading slump because I was forcing myself to read books I thought “I should read”. Including the Russian classics. It turned me off reading cos it was not something I was enjoying and more like studying or something.

If you haven’t been reading much it is really a challenge to dive right into high fantasy like LOTR cos you need to follow all the characters remember the magic systems the races and everything. It is very overwhelming and I can imagine how painful it becomes.

Please find something you enjoy, watch some YouTube videos of book recommendations and pick up books you hear about and might like. As you build your habit and expand your knowledge of world building etc you might step back into fantasy or something else.

My advice? Start with books that are close to real life, with characters that you can relate to. If you game, read a book about gaming like Ready Player One. If you like sports, pick out a memoir by a favourite athlete.

Reading should be fun (unless it’s for school or work purposes) don’t force yourself to like things you don’t enjoy.

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User7193719 OP t1_j6hozy3 wrote

That’s exactly how we apply things to our long-term memory. When we attach it to things we already know. Putting new ideas and information into our own words and own understanding of it allows it to ingrain itself into our memory. I find this especially true when you‘re excited to read the book and you‘re totally immersed in it, which is kind of like an emotion since it resonates with us enough for us to become immersed.

I don‘t know if what you‘re describing has more to do with neuroplasticity or if it‘s a real thing. I know smells can greatly impact the way we remember things. I can say that’s true from the studies out there and my own experiences but that’s getting a bit deep into it haha.

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honestlyicba t1_j6howbr wrote

I’m sure AI can replace many of the really trash books that are churned out (looking at you Kindle Unlimited).

The masters of writing though, I doubt any AI can emulate their style or their mind bending twists. Writing prose is also about using very unique ideas ways to describe a situation, a place, a character. It builds and builds upon itself which I think AI is still lacking in.

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yohane1169 t1_j6hoem7 wrote

Best way for me is read a passage or chapter of a book and rephrase the things i need in my own way and My own style+ imagine a scenario that i Will need this , because emotion makes a memory burn in your head , that's why most of our memories are from our childhood (atleast for me lol).

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Sumraeglar t1_j6hn4sl wrote

Yes it was, his stuff usually is. I feel like he knows what's going to be picked up to go on screen or not and does that on purpose to try and make the screen version as good as possible, just speculation but everything that has been picked up to go on screen has been insanely long.

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User7193719 OP t1_j6hmng5 wrote

I like this. It‘s easier to remember things when you‘re mentally engaged with it. Being immersed in the book as you read it and actively discuss it or read others views about it afterwards would probably make it more effective than taking detailed notes. Thanks!

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Tanagrabelle t1_j6hmhrs wrote

See, the boy loving the dog is actually one of the most realistic parts to me. I have cats, though. Additional point, in the story he's that young man, and he, in the way that the young often are, doesn't really believe he's in danger until he really is.

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Kssio_Aug t1_j6hm17u wrote

I don't like to study books deeply, because I think it defeats the purpose of pleasure reading. But a good way to memorize a book, imo, is to enter discussions about it. That way you will see other people theories and point of views different than yours and as you answer someone else's doubts you also reflect on what you read. It works great for me and it's much more fun than studying the book like a textbook.

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