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zumera t1_j6ibeit wrote

>And there was no consequence other than divorce. No charges pressed. No jail time.

It's an unfortunate reality for many women who experience domestic violence. Justice is difficult to achieve and very often not worth the emotional and mental toll.

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GhostMug t1_j6ibbtv wrote

Honestly, I love SK but you could probably make this claim about most of his books post-80's. My theory is that he just became so successful as an author no editor would actually tell him "no" and it didn't matter cause he would sell millions of copies anyway.

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AbbyM1968 t1_j6ibbh9 wrote

Hmm. I'm in the same boat. I used to read 360 books a year (not Harlequin romance, but "big honkin' novels"). In 2009, I was in a car accident. Since that time, I might have read 2 or 3 books from start to finish (Harlequin romance size). I re-read bits & pieces of my favourite books, but I haven't read an entire book all-at-once since 2009.

I know your frustration. In another thread, people have said, "Just keep trying; it'll return." Or, "Try reading different types than you used to." And, "Cut yourself some slack. It'll come back when it wants to. Don't force it." All good advice. BUT -- I'm not the way I used to be!! I want to be the voracious reader I used to be! It hurts! Almost physically. (I'm "of a certain age," and I want to throw a kicking screaming fit about this)

I don't have an answer of how to bring it back; believe me, if I knew, I'd write a book about it!!! All I have to offer is the advice in the previous paragraph. I guess we have to just keep plugging. ((Hugs)) All the best.

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UFO_1980 t1_j6iamk0 wrote

I agree that I have found nearly all Stephen Kings books far too long.
Just finished reading "A Fairy Tale" and I was constantly saying to myself "just get on with the story, and leave out all the unnecessary padding".

There also seemed to be a lot of repetition.
I was also saying "yeah, you told us this in the last chapter and the one before that".
Get on with the bloody story.

To be fair, it is not just Stephen King who does this.

I am all for "world building" and "developing characters" in a story.
But it seems to be taken to such silly levels so often it drives me mad.

However, I am my own worst enemy.
Once I start reading a book, or watching a movie, I always see it through to the bitter end.
Even when a third of the way through I know its crap.
Something inside me tells me that it will get better and a great ending awaits me.

That has never happened!

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Glitz-1958 t1_j6i9u9d wrote

I suspect a key phrase here might be since Covid. If that's the case then please cut yourself some more slack. Even enjoyment takes energy. It might be that emotion, however pleasurable is more than your system feels up to. It might be that you need to build up your general health and well-being with walking, small scale sociability, small treats and much less emotionally demanding reading for a while.

I have found refuge in Terry Pratchett's books and although there are deep emotional elements I only engage with them as much as I feel up to. Otherwise he tickles my sense of humour, word play, imagination. His writing can be appreciated on different levels so you can race through with the plot or find joy in just a few pages of carefully honed writing.

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USS_Notajetski t1_j6i9bvl wrote

I also go through ups and downs with reading, where I feel like nothing I try to read scratches that page turning itch. So I switch to Music. I find audiobooks is the key. I can "read" all the time then. And with Audible I can just ask for a refund if it is not something I enjoyed.

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the_original_Retro t1_j6i8zg0 wrote

Okay, so it would be helpful if you cited how old you actually are and some of the books you read that left you feeling "hollow" or "broken and incomplete", because that doesn't sound like a positive outcome of reading.

It CAN be. Some tragic books like Cormac McCarthy's "The Road" generate that feeling, but that was their intention. Perhaps readers feel grateful that they weren't in that world and exposed to that hellscape. But it's not 'enjoyable' so much as it is 'eye-opening'.

But either way, maybe ask for recommendations on something that "changes up" what you're reading so you'll feel something different than what you describe, because that honestly sounds like it sucks.

Maybe you could gain benefit from a hero to support that beats the odds, instead of a book set in a dank setting that makes humanity look awful. Or read a biography about someone actually overcoming adversity that you can cheer on rather than someone that gets crushed by their circumstances.

As an example, Andy Weir's "The Martian" is a colossally good read, with manageable levels of science and a central character that you can really look up to.

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honestlyicba t1_j6i8bev wrote

You are exactly right. It’s not the subject matter itself (toxic and problematic relationships) but writing them in a way that makes it seems romantic to impressionable young minds.

When we are young we are like blank sheets of paper and if we start believing at that age that it’s okay to be with someone who lies and gaslights and manipulated, we would think it’s normal.

It’s not the young readers fault, the books are overhyped and honestly they don’t know any better.

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penguin-47284 t1_j6i7zjs wrote

I think the big thing with a feeling like this is to read something you feel like you’ll enjoy, and to be open to keeping a space in your life for reading again. Not saying you’re not, just saying that sometimes you do just need a break from reading, even if that break lasts years and there’s nothing wrong with just saying that reading isn’t something that you’ll enjoy at this point in your life. If you want to get back into reading, though, I usually encourage people to try and read at least 20 minutes a day at some point throughout the day. It just helps to build routine where you incorporate it back into your life and then you can kinda play with that time and the days you do it once you get back into the swing of things. Reading takes time and energy too, so be sure you’re reading something you’re enjoying! If you don’t like it, leave it.

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Careless-Chipmunk-22 t1_j6i7x07 wrote

I’m sorry you’re feeling like this. You’re not alone, I have been there. Personally, the app/site GoodReads helped me. Reading reviews on books, finding books you may have liked and seeing similar titles, or seeing what people are also reading that read your liked book. Or perhaps taking a trip to a book store. Have a coffee and browse the aisles, new titles, etc. I think once you find one title you love, you’ll feel out of the rut you’re in.

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dawgfan19881 t1_j6i6zfs wrote

For physical books I personally read paperbacks only. They are easier to read as the binding is less rigid and all me get get more comfortable when reading. What i do is simply read other things until a newer book I wanna read comes out in paperback. There is so much stuff already in paperback I want to read it’s not a big deal for me that I can’t read a brand new book right when it comes out. Or if I really want it I just get it in my kindle.

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Despguy1337 t1_j6i5tze wrote

I will never forget the chapter when finally the military appears and he ask them whether the US had won the war.

The response is something like "oh yes, we absolutely clobbered them".

So the US "won" the war, yet the country is a complete mess. Really shows that there are no winners in a nuclear war.

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