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Hey, my mom told me it's normal size!!!

Oof, that sounded WAY funnier in my head. I probably shouldn't hit the reply button, but I have very little self control and hope that at least one person gets a chuckle out of it!

You’re still not getting it. He’s not asking HOW to launder money, he’s asking WHY that line is there. And it’s there as a way to tax federally illegal revenues.

Things like casinos and brothels have historically fallen under this category. I’m sure marijuana could too, if you want to be able to receive digital payments (which is why a lot of dispensaries are cash only).

Also that’s not how money laundering works, if you’re receiving payments like that the cash would have to be laundered before then.

Personally, I find very difficult to massage myself, let’s say I want to relax my legs: Mi have to stiffen my arm to apply the pressure, then my chest and abdomen and push onto the leg. It’s very difficult to let the leg relax while the rest of the body is stiffening. If you don’t relax the part of the body, the massage won’t penetrate the first centimeter of the body. Muscles must be relaxed in order to let the pressure go deep.

Plus all the right things o saw in the other comments.

Still, self massage is possible but the best way is to use objects and rest your weight on them.

Just going to drop this here in case you haven't seen it....

But that's local property taxes. Not federal income taxes. The U.S (federal) (Income) tax code does not progressively tax wealth. It progressively taxes income.

The threat of being caught after the fact. The scammer has to perform the scam in person and will most likely be on CCTV.

Think of flying through the air like skimming on the sea. Now and again you’ll hit some waves. Sometimes you hit a big wave but just pass up over it and then ‘fall’ a little until you’re back on the water. The only thing with air is that it’s essentially invisible so you can’t always anticipate exactly where the waves are.

When I’m on a plane I have this concept in my mind during turbulence and imagine we’re just all surfing on an invisible sea. Great fun!

Money from illegal activities: $0

Money from my, uh, consulting firm called Definitely Not an Extortion Racket: $1,000,000

Depending on the family we grow up in, we'll learn a language. My family spoke English so I speak English. I don't speak Hindi, Swahili or French... but many people do.

If I wanted to learn to speak French, I'd be best to find someone who speaks French. More than that, I'd be best to find someone who speaks it slowly and clearly, someone who cares about my progression, and gives me time to stumble over my words and find it difficult sometimes. In other words, trying to learn French from the angry drunk guy on the bus might not be ideal.

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When we grow up in a family we also learn certain thought patterns, certain ways of communicating, expressing emotions, responding to emotions and so forth. They're as normal to us as speaking English is to me.

Unfortunately, we might be a bit specialised in our skills. Maybe our family were total assholes and so the skills we learned to survive with our family of assholes don't actually help us in real life.

Maybe your mum screamed at you, belittled you, and blamed you for anything that went wrong. Well that's like learning Hindi in an English speaking country. When you go out to work in the real world, you might find you're limited in how you can connect to people.

So you go to therapy to learn to love, be kind, to forgive, accept, talk nicely to yourself and to other people. You might even learn to feel and accept your own emotions instead of feeling guilty for them.

And you learn them because, if the therapist is any good, they will speak to you in a loving, caring, accepting manner... and so from them you will learn how to be that way yourself.

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So you maybe didn't really need 14 different therapists. That's like thinking you needed 14 different plumbers to fix the leaky sink. If you're willing to get in there and experience the experience they have to give you, maybe you'll get what you need.

The problem, of course, is that if the first language you learned is one of judgement and distrust, then you're going to judge and distrust all the therapists... and so you won't give them a chance to get you better.

Maybe your parents never gave you a chance... so you won't give the therapists a chance either.

Maybe your parents commanded you what to do and were very controlling... so you'll find it weird when the therapist doesn't give you specific instructions but instead trusts you to find your own solutions.

Maybe your parents told you you're incompetent... and so you think the therapists are incompetent for not noticing how incompetent you are, and instead they believe in your ability to heal.

Maybe you're desperate for a therapist to "fix" you... because your parents convinced you you're broken. But maybe the therapists are all communicating that you're just fine and that frustrates and annoys you.

The point here is that it's entirely possible that the things that stop the therapy succeeding are exactly the things you need the therapy for.

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Best of luck. It can be very difficult.

You might get a partial answer out of the recent Jonah Hill doc on Netflix called Stutz. Not all therapy is like this, being very practical and tangible. But some is and it's one way to answer your query.

yeah I think about a decade ago there was like $10-$20 limit in poland per transaction and visa contacted bank during payment every 4-5 taps
not sure how mastercard worked

today I'm not certain about the limits - for sure more than $100 - but is it a hard limit or default to be changed in bank app, I have no idea
don't usually spend more in physical stores

An important part of the therapy is "reality testing".

You might say, "I'm terrified of taking a girl to bed cos she'll probably just mock me for my tiny penis".

Well she might. Maybe one already did. So then the therapist might say, "Okay, 3 girls laughed, does that mean *all* girls will laugh? Maybe they will. There are at least 500 million eligible girls on earth and it's possible they'll all laugh. Three have laughed so far... but is that really enough to estimate that they *all* will? It seems a bit few to me. How about 50? How about you take another 47 girls to bed and if they all laugh, then that'll make it more likely that 'all' girls will laugh."

And then they all laugh up to girl number 6 who also laughs, but then says she really likes you and wants to see you again. What now? Is laughter a bad thing? Maybe they're just amused and like laughing.

So negative thoughts are often "right" but maybe they're more nuanced than you're currently seeing.

Or maybe the girls are being horrible to you. What kind of girls are you going for? Only bitchy "cool" girls? Oh okay, so maybe try 47 other women of different types and see if they treat you differently. Try a goth, a metalhead, a cheerleader, a librarian type... "reality test" all the way to self-comfort. :D

To add to that, in most circumstances pressing four on the keyboard will not result in 00000100 binary being stores, but instead 00110100.

The keystrokes get normally stored as characters not numbers and this character just happens to be a digit.

The value of the characters for 0 to 9 are not the values of the numbers 0 to 9, but 48 (00110000) added to them.

To actually treat what you enter as a number rather than a string of characters the computer needs to internally convert them.

>They cut it with water and throw it in a tub with a Christmas tree and lawn trimmings to make gin.

Them's fightin' words, pardner.

Simplified: A good (fitting) therapist will help you by providing a structure. This might include a way of thinking about stuff by talking, writing, painting, meditating, how really doesn’t matter that much.

The goal is to help you work through something that is hard to work through on your own. So, you are powering the process, but the therapist guides you into specific directions. They can’t make you do anything, just guide you.

You are like multiple horses pulling a carriage in different directions. Some people can solve this problem by themselves (mostly with the informal help of friends), others need a therapist to help guide all horses back into the same direction.

It depends what you're trying to sort out.

Therapy can help you learn how your mind works. What triggers you and why. It can give you better visibility of unhealthy thoughts or feelings and the reasons for them.

It can also teach you techniques to handle those thoughts and feelings.

However it's not suitable for everything or everyone.

The negative thoughts might be right, but CBT is a tool to help a person figure that out. You work on removing a negative bias from your thinking, and if it still makes sense after that to perceive something as negative, than you do, but before deciding that, you’ve removed things like catastrophizing, paranoia, grandiosity, etc.

It’s not meant to delude yourself. It’s meant to give clarity to appropriately assess the situation and act accordingly.

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It works by encouraging you to think about things you haven't put together properly in your mind. Talking is thinking out loud, so someone encouraging you to talk about issues that are causing you pain makes you articulate and investigate and connect them in ways you may have avoided before.

Career glazier... Glass used to be put through rollers,at the edges of the sheet it was imprecise in thickness.. Old glass is thicker at the bottom by installers choice. Most pressure from gravity was on bottom, so you cut the glass so the skinny side is up to reduce breakage. Taught these details restoring an old train.

That's where a therapist can help guide you or you would have to assess the situation yourself.

If the negative thoughts themselves are what is causing you distress or making you unable to function in some way then the negative thoughts are causing the harm.

Like if you are afraid someone is trying to kill you every time you leave the house, but you know logically no one is, then CBT might be a good technique to help you.

But if someone is actually trying to kill you, law enforcement may be a better able to help you.

Taking a reasonable step back and making fair judgements about yourself is important - sometimes, you've got to listen to what your instincts are telling you, rather than just drown them out. But it's also very easy to get stuck in negative patterns of thought which actually prevent improvement and progress toward happiness. That's where programmes of self-correction have been shown to have significant measurable benefits.

Also, life is a codified self-delusion. You self-delude every single day in order to not go insane in the context of a society. CBT is merely acknowledging and exercising a little more control over the things we tell ourselves.

Say what you will about the tennets of Fatalism but at least it's an ethos.

It's not really going to be the therapist to "sort you out", it's still going to be you who does all the work. Specially the first visits will be extremely uncomfortable because you have to face things you don't want to face. Face the problems that you need to work on, and realize that it really is you who needs to do the work. It can be very frustrating at first. But the therapist is there to give you the tools and keep motivating you, you still have to be the one going back time after time.

There are no miracle solutions or magic pills, it's all just tools so you can help yourself.