You may be thinking of ABA therapies, or Applied Behavioral Analysis. This is the field that is (rightfully) being scrutinized as of late because the goal is exactly what you said - “correcting” the “undesirable” social behaviors of autistic people and replacing them with more socially accepted ones.

I have a BA in psych and a Master’s in applied behavioral sciences (so not the above field), AND have had a therapist for several years where we’ve worked on CBT-based skills and such. Incredibly helpful for me and my depression/ anxiety. It’s not about acting accordingly in social situations, but rather how to “talk back to” the negative thoughts that come along with my diagnosis. So instead of someone canceling plans leading to a spiral of “they don’t care about me -> are we even really friends -> does anyone really care”, etc, learning how to hit the brakes after that first thought and remind yourself of all the reasons why that is a highly unlikely and illogical conclusion to reach.

It's both. Thinking about your past ways of acting and then visualizing better ways of acting is just bringing healthy replacement thoughts into the world.

I'd be willing to bet that your understanding of this is accurate!

Thanks! I didn't know that.

This

It helps me as a sanity check. In the sense that "I feel this way about some stuff, is that reasonable, and what can I do about it" since in general my mental health is good.

To be clear, it is always unintentional. You cannot control wether or not you'll have one or in a very limited manner.

When aroused, yes but it's not like you control or not to be aroused. You just are from whatever is happening in front of you.

You can intentionally trigger it by watching something arousing, rubbing or whatever, but it is still a trigger. You do not "control it" in the same way you control your arm or eyes mouvement.

So unless someone is purposely trying to have an erection, a random erection can occur and is never controller. Especially for a teenager... The amount of times I had a random erection for virtually no reason. Like... The friction from my short after standing up from class was enough.

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Lol are you okay

As another parent, stfu and quit representing us badly. Your anecdote doesn't mean shit and "clearly not a parent" is just you trying to get away with anecdote in a weird pretentious way because you have no data. Just because you had sex and it led to a baby doesn't make you an expert in this.

It’s not that you report it as “illegal income,” you just report it as “other income” and don’t specify the source. As long as you declare it and pay the taxes, the IRS doesn’t care where it came from.

Rational me knows that....but every time they shudder going breakneck speeds, I think everything is just about to fly apart.

lol sure kid

No, I'm a scientist, so I listen to what the data says

All systems that I know of that have defined terms like 25 years, also have concepts for people that are still considered dangerous but its not part of the prison time because its not the punishment but to protect other people from that person. In german for example its called "Sicherheitsverwarung" which would translate to security detention.

Safer than driving, by a long shot

Not quite applicable but in Florida they have “hard time”. In most cases when you get prison time you only have to do 75% of your sentence if you have good behavior, called gain time. Right now it’s about 10 days for every 30 you serve. however they can sentence you in a way where you have to do every day of your sentence. In most cases like this they give a sentence of so many years which includes some hard time, like 5 years with two years minimum. This way you don’t qualify for any gain time until you serve 2 years. That means you loose 240 days of gain time, which is a lot on a 5 year sentence.

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The major point is having someone to talk to that has no relation with you.

It's not a friend, it's not family, it's not coworker, it's not a spouse.

You can say what you want.

In that context, it helps you find paths to getting "better".

What you describe is very similar to wake turbulence in cruise. Aeroplanes criss cross paths all the time, with the required separation, but it takes time for these vortexes to lose their kinetic energy. And since they are, well, swirly, they can also travel around. So you might hit one without even seeing the aeroplane that made it.

I can say it helped me tremendously after like 3 sessions. I’m paraphrasing here but My therapist asked what was causing me grief and anxiety and I said my mom, she’s always talking about her money problems and always has even as I was a kid which is I think is the root my anxiety of going broke and is always so negative about everything. And that’s just not me, I can’t stand it.

My therapist said to me, you can set boundaries, you don’t have to spend time with people who make your feel this way, family included. You can sell the rental houses you own, which one my mom lived in for 400 bucks a month if they cause you to worry. He said, you deserve to be happy too.

It was incredibly eye opening

It really was an eye opener.

CBT is supposed to be actual concrete examples of how to act accordingly in social situations ... no ?

slight tangent....when I first found out planes would be in service for decades I became terrified of flying