Because Chinese people are owned by the Chinese state. They get told what to make and what to earn. The state wants to sell mass quantities at a profit, so guess how much they drive down wages?

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I'm so sorry to hear that. Good you managed to get out, and I would agree that a healthy family without a dad is better than a toxic family with a dad.

Yea, it's brutal. My ex gaslit me constantly, among other abuse tactics. I'm lucky to have gotten out. He abandoned our son the literal second he realized he couldn't control me anymore, which in one way sucks that my son doesn't have a dad in his life, but on the other hand my son is growing up in an environment with zero toxicity and zero abuse. I choose the latter over the former :)

Lying to someone specifically in a way that makes them doubt their own memory or reality. Usually a long-term thing.

For example, if you and I are alone in an elevator, and I fart…. then blame you. With only 2 of us, we both absolutely know who farted, but maybe I can convince you that it was you. Even if you 99% know that it wasn’t actually you, that 1% doubt is the start of it.

Next time something happens, I blatantly lie again and get you to 2% doubt the obvious reality. On and on until you don’t believe your own brain.

Same. We got bamboozled, and I'm strangely OK with it this time.

Don't go playing games now... I have no time for this

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No, you didn’t tell them about it at all. Why do you think you did?

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While gaslighting may at first glance seem a tad silly, as thought it's just dumb pranks, and the harm of it is perhaps not immediately apparent, it is a tactic commonly employed by abusers. (I guess it is abuse in and of itself? No matter, that's semantics.) The idea is that if your abuser causes you to trust their judgment over your own, they can get away with more and more horrible shit.

"No, silly, I didn't hit you, you hit your head on the cabinet door, remember?" "I know your friend told you I'm bad news, but I think she's actually bad news so maybe you shouldn't hang out with her anymore." It gives the abuser a tremendous amount of control over the victim's life.

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Who are you taking to?

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I have already explained it to you, did you not get it the first time?

Explain like I'm five. Lol

Im not having this aforementioned argument with you again

It's the dedication page of their memoirs.

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No it isn’t. You’re just imagining things.

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