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pixel_of_moral_decay t1_j3cj6qu wrote

That’s just laws and policies as the article notes.

I know someone who left for Brooklyn a few years back because lack of business diversity. Some LGBTQ, like the person I know prefer to patronize and work for LGBTQ businesses (vote with your wallet and all). It’s apparently pretty exhausting finding nearby everything that satisfies that around here. Doctors, dry cleaners, groceries, etc. Brooklyn makes it easy apparently. Sometimes just not being visibly hostile isn’t enough.

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Sondude1 t1_j3cbq8o wrote

You could book a haircut with one of the apprentices at Virile barbershop. There are 2 locations in downtown. When you book with an apprentice, the haircut is free because they’re still in training. I usually do that when my usual guy isn’t available and it’s always a great cut. Tip generously though.

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manuelalej305 OP t1_j3c7csl wrote

Let me clarify, this post does not mean that we are only interested in making gay friends. We are very social people and we know we will make friends, in general, anywhere we go. But it is typical human nature to have a subset of your friends being those who have shared similar life experiences and can connect at a much deeper level. I have friends with very different backgrounds than mine who I love and admire. But I know they have subsets of friends with which they share experiences that I will never understand and will therefore never be able to provide them with the safe space they need, and it doesn’t offend me that I’m excluded from their gatherings and activities every once in a while. When it comes to make other gay (or lgbtq in general) friends, location typically matter as we tend to congregate in certain areas, primary, as a defense mechanism to keep each other safe. If you think we live in a perfect society already where it’s all unicorns and rainbows, read this article

https://www.nytimes.com/2022/12/20/nyregion/drag-queen-story-hours-protests-nyc.html

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Capable_Elk_3070 t1_j3c08q0 wrote

I'm gay, live in JC with my spouse, and most of my friends live in Manhattan. I don't think this is a jersey city problem though, it's just that I met most of my friends in grad school in NYC and it's hard to make friends as an adult! Personally, I still find it worth it. I live in the heights, so I can live in a three bedroom apartment with backyard access for the price of a one bedroom on the upper west side, where most of my friends live.

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