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pillbinge t1_j80szsg wrote

>Is this an offensive phrase or something?

We are atheists and non religious.

Christians and Jews consider it as taking the Lord's name in vain, which is a commandment from the Old Testament. It's a very big rule, though as always, there can be debate over what it means entirely.

Reddit's shoe is on the other foot, because there are numerous other examples you could find with other religions that would be offensive, but Reddit hates Christians. If a student constantly offered a Muslim student pork, it wouldn't be seen as a neighborly gesture. If a kid kept saying "YHWH" to a Jewish staff member who asked him to stop repeatedly, it would be considered offensive.

But for Reddit, the attitude is "fuck Christians", because many here grew up with that as their background, and it's what they're rebelling against.

Even as a teacher, I wouldn't myself do anything, but see it from the other side: why is your child having so much trouble with one phrase? This shouldn't be a hard lesson in either being mindful or learning about others' differences. And not only saying the phrase, but getting caught, which seems ultra stupid.

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Emmie12750 t1_j80skqb wrote

I've known people who are religious who will become distressed by hearing other people using that phrase. I've also known atheists to become upset hearing the same phrase. So there could be many reasons why the teacher doesn't want your child saying this. Perhaps another child picked up on it, and that child's parents complained, or maybe the principal overheard it and was displeased. Does someone have it in their minds that it's simply an inappropriate phrase? Inappropriate for that age group? Maybe someone thinks it's too close to "real" swearing. (A "gateway swear," so to speak!) There's a lot of possibilities.

I think that more to the point here, the way your child is being corrected is inappropriate. If it's causing him to feel sad, discouraged, and anxious, then the teacher should change his or her methods of managing the situation. I'd talk to the teacher, and perhaps the principal, and focus on the how rather than the why.

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jpr_jpr t1_j80re1q wrote

Our pre-school teacher went full silent treatment to us when we had a friendly, respectful discussion with the administration about the teacher not addressing another student hitting our kid.

I'd be mindful of blowback to your kid in addressing this. I'm glad we addressed our issue, and we ended up moving our kid out early of that pre-school into a summer camp before kindergarten.

Depending upon the punishment/discipline, you may just want to move your kid elsewhere. I doubt the teacher will change.

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lufecaep t1_j80pxzp wrote

There's no easy route from Fall River to Boston. You need to get a comercial bus from Fall River to Providence, then take the T to Boston. It looks like two buses to get the Providence. That's why it takes two hours. I'm guessing that's going to add up price wise.

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new_Australis OP t1_j80p2cb wrote

Thanks for your opinion.

We did have a chat with him.

We told him these are harmless words. It is our opinion that words hold as much power as you give them.

We told him they are not bad words but that the teacher doesn't like them and so he should avoid them.

He said ok however he is a child and often forgets.

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new_Australis OP t1_j80oewz wrote

>Play a game at home: dole out 4 quarters to everyone. every time some one says it at home they have to put a quarter in the jar. Last one with a quarter gets the pot

Good idea. I will see what works with him.

>Why should you have to stop saying it at home? You shouldn’t

I agree but I also want him to have a good experience in school.

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MassholeAsswhole t1_j80m7ux wrote

As someone said you’re going to have a hard time finding a custom builder at that budget. That’s a very rock-bottom price. If you’re interested in an energy efficient home consider something pre-fabricated like unity homes:https://unityhomes.com/floor-plans/

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Practical-Basil-1353 t1_j80lfgy wrote

First, Christianity is not the only sect to feel this way. Second, OP said the child/family are not religious. So why would the child use religious language as a substitute for expressing shock or disbelief? Your argument is for adults, the post was about Kindergartners. And again, being respectful, a lost art I know, it costs nothing to respect someone else’s views. Respect is not an argument, and the child will be better adjusted for life for understanding this. Go ahead, the floor is yours for the last word:

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