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twawawayyy OP t1_j61pk2r wrote

Reply to comment by DecreeofHonor in I worked at Manch DCYF. AMA by twawawayyy

Read The Spirit Catches You and You Fall Down! It will get you to the hesrt of things. Then read The Body Keeps Score (apparently? I haven't read it LMAO)

I'm not the best person to ask, I don't have formal.SW training. Kind of a deep end of the pool experience, was DCYF. Then again nothing can prepare you for CPS. When I was interviewing for other jobs, I nearly giggled when they asked about interpersonal challenges or ethical dilemmas. After 2 years in CW you can eat that before breakfast unphased. No job will ever be challenging again!

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FynnCobb t1_j61nrml wrote

Reply to I worked at Manch DCYF. AMA by twawawayyy

Not a question, but thank you for what you’ve done. That is soul-crushing, heartbreaking work - but it’s gods work. Thank you, OP, and thank you to all that do it.

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overdoing_it t1_j61m10q wrote

Reply to comment by Truthislife13 in What a tool by Matty_Bee63

I got all downvotes when I suggested NH legalize paint thinners and other solvents that I can buy in MA, ME and VT. Y'all are racist against me having a clean bathtub. Well guess the fuck what I used xylene I bought in Mass to strip off the paint job I messed up and it looks FANTASTIC now.

I'm holding a grudge on this. Let me buy my industrial solvents in state or I will badger my reps to ban the devils cabbage. I don't care if it's illegal I just beak the law. whoop de do.

And while we're at it I also want strychnine. I don't know what for yet but I want it.

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Able_Cunngham603 t1_j61l199 wrote

Reply to What a tool by Matty_Bee63

Sununu means well and has been a pretty good governor*. But he has presidential ambitions, and the GOP would never support a candidate that legalized weed.

It’s as simple as that.

(* especially for someone whose nickname in school was Crybaby McFishsticks)

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twawawayyy OP t1_j61hkev wrote

Reply to comment by liss_up in I worked at Manch DCYF. AMA by twawawayyy

Because they have no power over the agency they work for. And neither will you, when you get there. Keeping this righteous attitude will kill you working in that system.

Yes, a worker has to track down the family and evaluate the situation. Yes that yakes time. Yes everyone deserves to have working gours and non qorking hours. Would you personally like to pay the taxes for 24/7 child welfare coverage? What are we supposed to do, take away a child with no evidence and no investigation just because an intern says so? For how long? Where do we put them? Who says when they can go back? When does the judge have an opening to review the statement? Can we take anyone's children? What if the kid is just mad and knows the system well enough to know that all they have to say is "I don't feel safe" and their parent will be punished? Maybe you could be the one to pick them up from school and bring them home without notice? Always have an empty room? Easy enough.

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twawawayyy OP t1_j61gssd wrote

Reply to comment by RandomUserNameXO in I worked at Manch DCYF. AMA by twawawayyy

Interesting! I haven't had that experience before, I didn't know a "social work hold" existed (and your local dcyf probably doesn't realize either-- don't tell them!) Please know that no one wants this. I had a nonverbal autistic child who had been in my care for over 5 years (I visit them now that I'm out.) Once an ER staff asked "do you realize you have a child sitting here in the ER?!?" It was horrific for me. Of course I knew. I'd been acting as that child's legal guardian for years. I was the closest thing they had to family in the world. Of course I was doing everything, frantically, calling everywhere that existed. The idea that someone somehow thought I didn't care.... it was actually the beginning of the end of my career there. I couldn't bear it. A year before I left.

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liss_up t1_j61g065 wrote

Reply to I worked at Manch DCYF. AMA by twawawayyy

I am a clinical psych final year intern and I would like to know why the call takers never seem to take the concerns of clinical staff seriously. I have kids in my office telling me they're scared dad will kill them if they go home from the appointment and DCF will routinely tell me to send the kid home until someone can evaluate the report (this example is an average situation, not a specific case).

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