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Analog_2_Digital t1_j9ubc68 wrote

Reply to comment by MamaPajamaMama in POV: You’re from NJ, so you get to enjoy this view while someone else pumps your gas. by ForeverMoody

For the people who are fast or in a rush it can absolutely be faster, but for people who take their time it can also be a lot slower (old people that stretch everytime they get out of the car, people leaving their car at the pump to go in and get smokes, people hogging the pump while they finish reading/texting something, airheads who have no idea other people are waiting on them etc). It might not be a lot, but it adds up quick. All it takes is a couple slow people and half the station is bottlenecked. I live in PA now and see people do this all the time, but it still tends to be faster than NJ because there's so many pumps you're never waiting on anyone else.

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rossmosh85 t1_j9u97jo wrote

Reply to Where do I live?? by amberleemerrill

Central Jersey falls between 78 and 195. So if you want to talk North, Central, or South, you're in Central Jersey.

Talking to people from NJ, you'd say you're from the Highlands, which people will immediately know. If you're talking about where you live to people from out of the area, I'd say something like "The central coast of NJ on the bay, about an hour on the ferry to NYC"

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CoreyMullin t1_j9u89dz wrote

Reply to Should NJ Students Get 'Mental Health Days'? by greenhousecrtv

NJ curriculum should be completely changed up focusing more on mental and physical health/ philosophy/ critical thinking/ social relationships every year K-12. Not only that but instead of reinforcing the “just say no campaign” through the Dare program teach young teens patience.

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Dux-Mathildis t1_j9u6sof wrote

Reply to Should NJ Students Get 'Mental Health Days'? by greenhousecrtv

I'm a college prof, not secondary (where I think this is aimed)--but I "let" my students take mental health days. All in all, my policy is this: You're an adult, allocate your time as you need to; know that generally the less time you allocate to this course, the worse your grade will be." I don't ask for a doctors note or any documentation generally because that's just fucking stupid. The only time I might intervene is if the student has extended absences due to illness, and then I'll approach them about getting the university involved so they have a bit of protection at that level.

And on that note, I've also taken mental health days and openly called them that. It's important that if we want to change the way we think about illness and work in this country that we lead by example.

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Dangerous-Ad-9898 t1_j9u6mmu wrote

Reply to Should NJ Students Get 'Mental Health Days'? by greenhousecrtv

Out of 365 days in a year school districts only have 180 days of school. We’re tied with France with having the the fewest school days per year in a developed nation. Our children’s school days are pretty short compared to say Koreas 12 hours. Our students are allowed 18 days of absence before any consequences really are on the table.

That’s like you as an adult having a three day, seven hours a day, work week. You have the ability to change your schedule within reason so that if you want to work day five days a week you could then take two weeks off around Christmas, one week off in the Spring, and two and a half months off in Summer. Oh also have five days off for Thanksgiving and have every Federal holiday off. You would also receive 18 days of leave to be used however you choose. Paradise right. Imagine all that and then STILL needing a mental health day.

I’m all about my child’s mental health; he sees a therapist once a month. But there’s caring and then there’s codling. There’s got to be a line drawn in the sand between the toxic “suck it up kid” and them having to develop some form of mental fortitude.

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Telnet_to_the_Mind t1_j9u5zkn wrote

Reply to What was your experience moving out of your parents home in NJ? (age, income, job situation, rent, dating, enjoyment of life) by sakhussain2020

Hey,

So gladly I'll make you feel a lot better. I moved out at an even 30. I was (I think) making probably 67k. I had recently broken up so I was single, only had minimal expenses. I was (still am) a very introverted person so no clubs, drinking nights, or expensive expenditures for night life. Even with all of that I still had a ROUGH time getting a livable place to rent. I refused to live in like Camden or something just to say that I could be on my own. So I found an area near Princeton which was relatively cheaper.. It's farther away from where I grew up and where my parents are now, but it's at least doable for balancing income and expenses. Right now, I've gotten a few raises since then and I still struggle to make a decent profit per month.

I pay all utilities separately, phone bill, insurance, and some entertainment ammenties, like streaming services, audible, etc.

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Hope this helps mate and good luck, and do NOT Feel about about living at home. It's a stigma that needs to die. There's no shame in living at home and trying to squrriel money away.

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