Recent comments in /f/newjersey

daedalus_was_right t1_ja8atgr wrote

I can, actually.

There is documented data that rates of bullying have actually improved over the past few decades.

https://nces.ed.gov/fastfacts/display.asp?id=719

Note that 2009 (the year cited in this data being compared to this decade) was before the introduction of smartphones en messe, and long before the proliferation of social media.

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Action_Maxim t1_ja8arwg wrote

If someone is doing something and multiple neighbors are taking note, they're the problem. I'd tip off the offender to see if their behavior changes 5-0 will make a traumatic situation out of nothing.

A lot of people don't understand how overwhelming it is to be worried about your family's safety, y'all lack perspective and empathy. If someone was slinging where I lived I'd be trying to move my family out and not everyone see that or have that option. Cut them some slack.

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Mullethunt t1_ja8ah22 wrote

Holy shit, you're a teacher with that kind of observation? When the fuck did I say I was an expert in bullying? I called you out for your asinine comment that the internet is the same as it was 30 years ago. Then I gave you my reason why I would say that. You then make this about being a bullying expert? You just want to be upset and truly I feel bad for your students if that's even true. Keep up with the name calling though. It really helps show that you're anti-bullying :)

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Jimmy_kong253 t1_ja89y84 wrote

And that's the problem with some owners as long as you as the owner is getting the rent on time you don't care how it affects the community or the neighbors that have to live with your tenants year round. I'm not saying everyone that rents a house is bad of course. But slowly but surely we are becoming a nation of renters because the housing stock is being taken up by investment groups to turn into rentals and the only thing really getting built nowadays it seems is large apartments

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trekologer t1_ja89uzl wrote

> everyone had AIM and IRC and other forms of chatrooms that spread rumors and information like wildfire

Yes and no. These things existed but not in an environment where you're always connected to them. You can't say with a straight face that the prevalence of smart phones, tablets, school-issued laptops, etc. hasn't made the opportunities for bullies to target their victims worse.

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Mullethunt t1_ja89qdo wrote

I cried? I was trying to have a conversation but your panties got twisted. To say/act like the internet is the same today as it was in the late 90s is a straight up lie. This is coming from someone that works in IT, with the internet. Grow the fuck up. I'd hate to be one of your students if you can't even have a conversation without needing to name call immediately.

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naturist89 t1_ja89d2x wrote

I live in a retirement community and some idiot (who owns several units) rented a unit to hoarders. The entire patio area is loaded with trash and it seems to be growing. The inside is loaded with boxes and junk up to the ceilings. It's an eye sore and lowers the property values.

Seems that the board and management can do nothing about it.

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Summoarpleaz t1_ja88x84 wrote

I loved when I went to look at homes and all of a sudden everyone had different names for styles of homes. Looked up cape cod and understood it meant something like in the style of some older homes that were built on a small footprint so the hallways are more narrow and the rooms smaller generally speaking. We went to see a home and the agent was like this is an “expanded cape cod.” I had no idea what anything was after that.

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daedalus_was_right t1_ja88rl8 wrote

Whatever you tell yourself to sleep at night, sweetheart. You can ignore the fact that, in my community growing up, everyone had AIM and IRC and other forms of chatrooms that spread rumors and information like wildfire, but that doesn't make it a lie.

Not like that makes any difference; bullying is just as brutal whether the internet exists or not. When your cohort is only 100 people, and you get your shit kicked in in the hallway, the entire school knows what happened before the end of the day.

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Mullethunt t1_ja88708 wrote

> I experienced the same kind of bullying in middle and high school in the 90s and 2000s.

That's a bold faced lie. No one was on the internet in the 90s-early 2000s like kids are today. Even myself, who grew up on BBS', wasn't on the internet like I am today. The bullying is non-stop and to think it's the same as it was 20-30 years ago is foolish.

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