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GoodLt t1_ja9biwf wrote

>Because the school is not a jury

No. Punishing the victim along with the assailant is not justice, it's not fair, it's not moral, and it's not protecting anybody.

Find out who is the bully, and discipline them up to an including legal charges. Charge the parents if they try to stop it.

TEACH THE ASSAILANTS THAT THEY WILL NOT BE TOLERATED.

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target_meet_arrow t1_ja99ine wrote

>I grew up and knew people who literally were pieces of shit regardless of how their parents tried to correct their behavior and instill values and morals in them. Some people are just shitty people; sometimes it’s their upbringing, sometimes, it’s just their personalities.

Those kinds of people are a very very very small percentage of the population. We are talking about psychopaths and sociopaths. Those are exceptions not the rule. Everything else is poor upbringing (which is sometimes out of the parents control due to other factors). Personalities are developed. Humans are social animals that look to others to see how to behave. Humans raised without other humans aren't human at all and never learn to be. There are some genetic components to this but not to the degree that parents should be let off the hook (except for those exceptions).

The way kids were in the past doesn't excuse new resources and information. Kids are now being taught emotional regulation and coping skills, kindness, etc from early ages now.

And if your kid is still awful then you have a duty to protect others from them as best you can. If a kid is a psychopath or sociopath and they don't act then it's still on the parents.

>That being said, at 14 you know right from wrong

Yes, they know right from wrong. But teenagers don't have completely formed brains, understanding of consequences and don't always think rationally and more easily succumb to groupthink. So kids are more mature than others. They aren't blameless by any means but IMO the people with more blame are being punished less or not at all.

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