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legochemgrad t1_j2c19wk wrote

I’m also a grown man that went through years of therapy to be in the place I want to be. Do I understand what my parents were trying to do? Yes. Did it actually help me get anywhere faster? No.

Life pushed me and then my own work on self improvement got me there. And that self improvement doesn’t depend on getting abused. You’re clinging to old ways and bad parenting. Good parents can teach without pain. Good parents have their own trauma under control.

I’m sorry that your parents are dead and that you’re grieving them but grief doesn’t mean that they were right.

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