Recent comments in /f/pittsburgh

ThatFabulousBastard t1_jef1hnr wrote

Thank you for your kindness. It's okay though, I know how it goes and it's still important for me to inform others so they can make their own decisions.

I was an insecure gay kid that thought the furry fandom was the only place for me because weird/geek/lack of confidence...turns out that's what abusers are looking for. My abuser got away long ago, but after I left the fandom, one of the people I tried to warn others of went to jail for distributing videos of animals on children to popular furry circles in the Denver/Seattle.

I did heal thankfully. Good therapy, good family and friends, and determination. I know who I am now without a proxy identity. Leaving the parasocial social media sphere of it all did wonders for my mental health too.

And just to put a fine point on it, I don't hate furries and furry hate out-of-hand is wrong. I think people should be able to know the facts about what really goes on so they can come to a decision on their own. For me, that was "not all furries are bad people, but the furry fandom itself is lousy with sexual abuse and out of control paraphilic fetishism.

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Universewildflower t1_jef129a wrote

I got mine for $48 at the Firestone in Banksville. It was my first time getting a car inspected since I lived in a state that didn’t require inspections. I was warned it would be around $80-100 and to my surprise it was only $48.

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LockelyFox t1_jef0pr2 wrote

You're painting things with such a broad brush that at this point I'm not sure if you're trolling or not. It's well known that large cons like AC ban and remove harmful people on the regular, and actively update their terms of visitation to maintain a PG environment. The very first year I went to AC, before I even had a fursona or anything and was just dabbling in the fandom, I literally watched Con Security escort a murrsuiter (for the uninitiated, someone with a suit meant for sexual activities) out and ban them from the con.

Every community, especially ones with millions of members has shitbirds like RC Fox (who wasn't discovered until 2017, and who then was arrested and CW:>!killed himself!<). Pretending things like pedophilia is a unique problem within the furry community is disingenuous at best and actively spreading misinformation at worst. Especially towards a community with such high percentages of folks who are LGBTQIA+.

There's a reason why conservatives continue making up stories about furries in schools "demanding to use litterboxes," and it's because they can't just be outright homophobic anymore in today's society.

You also continue to link to a twitter thread involving a completely separate convention. There are [60+ yearly conventions in North America alone, and over 100 worldwide.] (https://en.wikifur.com/wiki/Anthropomorphic_Fandom_Convention_Information_Sheet) I'm not sure why you're conflating events that happened at one con to apply to all the others.

Again, I am sorry you had a traumatic experience with someone in the fandom and you're choosing to lash out at the fandom instead of that person. I'm also a victim of sexual coercion, by someone decidedly not in the fandom, but I'm not choosing to take that out on all the superfans of Lady Gaga, as that was her "thing."

I hope that you find a constructive way to heal from your trauma and pain. No one deserves to be sexually mistreated, and I sincerely wish you the best in your recovery. But please stop painting such a wide brush over a massive fandom.

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Watchyousuffer t1_jef0dvw wrote

Reply to comment by [deleted] in Opinions on Swissvale? by A-Fry-Guy

funny - I've always felt like the borough is too demolition happy and loses poor but salvageable buildings often.

generally, the farther you are from rankin the better. the northern portions are pretty nice.

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mswise506 t1_jef09e5 wrote

Reply to ….? by ReginaldsMember

Funny, I live a block off beechwood and regularly walk my dog all over squirrel hill, but have never seen this house.

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