Submitted by PlaneAd4751 t3_11e1qui in relationship_advice
My boyfriend and i have been together for a year and half (on and off), for the first 6 months of dating and another 6 months of commitment following that, we were in the same city and we barely fought. (Which i found a little weird). He shifted to a different city last year and we've been in a LDR since, the fights and insecurities have increased significantly. I'm the anxious kind who needs communication and reassurance often while he's more aloof. His last relationship was pretty brutal, wherein the ex dumped him after he moved to a different city (where i met him) for her. He's also a workoholic with barely any interaction with family or friends. He says that he wants to be alone and pushes me away saying he's a prick and 'not worthy of my love'.One day he's extremely sweet and caring and the next he doesn't respond for a whole day. He's a good person but he says really hurtful things knowingly (he wants to cause damage). I love him deeply and this happens every 2-3 months since he's shifted. This is really ruining my mental peace because I'm not asking for much, and only that he talk to me everyday. I don't know what to do, is this toxic or just a pattern of sabotage that will get better if i give it time?
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