Submitted by ThrowRAanxiousboy t3_11eo5tq in relationship_advice
I want to preface by saying the present with my gf is going pretty well. I’ve spent every night of the past couple of months at her place, and we’ve been talking since august of 22 (so sort of a new relationship). However, we have some differences that I can’t help but feel anxious about.
By far the most concerning difference to me is her reluctance to have kids. She wants to have maybe one kid in like 15 years, and I want to do it sooner than that. Of course I’m not trying to change her mind on the matter, because if she had a kid sooner than she was comfortable with and resented me for it, that would not cultivate a good relationship.
The way she handles disagreements is also disconcerting to me. She tends to shut down, and she will be quiet about the matter for the duration of a few hours, which leaves me feeling emotionally stranded. I’ve brought this up to her, and the response is basically “that’s how I process things”. Which I understand, but it’s fatiguing to me.
Anyway, some advice would be greatly appreciated. I am very determined to have our relationship work out, but these signs this early on is sort of freaking me out.
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