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mrinkyface t1_jaeycmu wrote

Reply to comment by Loyal_to_the_soil in My (26F) long term partner (27M) avoid one another when I’m going through depressive episodes. by Loyal_to_the_soil

I don’t think you’re willing to admit that your trauma and mental instabilities are ruling your life, and because it is ruling your life you do not see that your bf is forced to tolerate it and be an emotional support. It’s a toxic way of living in a relationship, and you not willing to admit that it’s controlling your life and automatically putting unfair expectations and demands on him is pretty much the entire problem. Eventually you will lose him because if it if you do not learn from your mistakes and show progress in getting yourself help from a mental specialist, but until you do he’s always going to be guarded and dismissive because he does not want to invest further into something that’s not showing any growth.

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Loyal_to_the_soil OP t1_jaeykzc wrote

judging from your clearly experiential prejudices and the lengthy assumptions you have made about me regardless of what I actually wrote, I hope you find the help you obviously need.

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mrinkyface t1_jaezn4z wrote

Really seems like you don’t want help, but want support and compliments from others to coddle you into feeling better about yourself without having to do anything to change yourself and work on healing the base problems you have. If that’s what you want then go to r/freecompliments or r/toastme

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