Submitted by Zestyclose-Wind-4827 t3_11eo3zv in relationship_advice
So before I get started I just want to draw a line through this one point. I'm not sex obsessed at all. Her body her choice. I'm an ally on that front.
My Fiance fluctuates with her weight quite a bit and it really gets to her and when this happens she closes off intimately. Yes thats long periods of no sex but I generally find this to be across other forms of affection physical and verbal.
I want to tell her it's bothering me because there are times when I want physical attention (not sex) but it just seems forced if I try to instigate anything and I don't want to be "that" guy. Goes against my beliefs to impose like that.
She will get dressed in other rooms or with her back turned so it's definitely getting to her.
Wondering if you could help me see it from another perspective so I can be respectful but also let my "needs" be heard.
It's tough because I feel like this is a very fine line between being a self serving sex pest and being constructive.
For the record I compliment her regularly and try to reassure but the insecurities seem to overpower the gestures half the time.
It's hard to put myself in those shoes because I'm at peace with what I am (I'm nothing special by any means haha)
Physical touch is my "love language" as such so the sex parts not the issue it's the lack of physicality in general.
Tough one.
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