Submitted by GoodNewsGoose420 t3_11eo24r in relationship_advice
For some background, I met my (now) ex husband in 2019, we got married in 202, then he got abusive, and I divorced him in June of 2022.
My ex and I have been divorced for about 8 or 9 months now and I got a restraining order on him because he was emotionally and physically abusive. I'm talking, sent me to the ER multiple times, abusive. I was sitting in the ER recently, due to problems with kidney failure and out of the blue he calls me on a different number since his was blocked. He doesn't allow me to speak at all, and spends 7 minutes blaming the fact that he abused me on alcohol and so I should forgive him because it wasn't really his fault. Apparently he's going through the like 12 step A.A program and he's making amends with he people he hurt. But he didn't apologize, he basically deflected blame and tried to shame me into idk what he wanted to be honest? Me to forgive him? Me to unblock him? But either way that's 7 minutes that I can never get back, wasted on him saying the fact the he abused me isn't even his fault. I had an anxiety attack after, they had to sedate me. He's just making things worse constantly, he won't leave me alone. It seems like even a restraining order won't keep him away. On valentines day he sent me a voice-mail saying "I could've bought you flowers today. But you left me alone. How could you?" Like why is he doing this to me??
EDIT: For all of you who are telling me to report this, I did. The answer I got from my police force was "We'll look into it."
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