My GF (19F) Blindsided Me (19M)

Submitted by ThrowRAsaddumped t3_11dvoai in relationship_advice

So my gf (19f) of 4 months just dumped me (19m) outta the blue on Friday. One of her friends had invited me to go hang out at the mall with him and my ex. She had just canceled plans on me that day because she didn’t feel good emotionally. So I went to go check in on her and see if it was okay if I joined. I was hit with a “sorry I have been thinking about this for a while” and she dumped me. She told me that I was supportive and caring and she knew I loved her a lot, but she stopped feeling the same for me. She said she cared for me a lot and I mean so much to her, but it made her feel guilty to talk to me. I tried to ask her if I did anything wrong or if I could have changed anything, but her response was just that her feelings changed for a while and I couldn’t have fixed that. She kept telling me how great and amazing I was. yesterday I found out she was back on dating apps through a mutual. I was super frustrated because it has only been 2 days since our breakup. everything about this has been eating me up inside. All I can think about is how much I want her back. We have never argued or had conflict up until that point and it felt like an amazing relationship.

tl;dr - gf dumped me after 4 months bc she fell out of love despite having no conflicts and enjoying time with me and it has been hurting

How should I cope with this? Should I give up on hope of her coming back?

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aeiou-y t1_jabypza wrote

It’s two days for you, but she may have been over you weeks ago.

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ThrowRAsaddumped OP t1_jabytry wrote

yeah I’ve come to accept that reality, but it still hurts to see me discarded and replaced so quickly. I only noticed her mood only shifted towards me about 2 weeks ago

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Magliene t1_jab4f5l wrote

I’m sure she does care about you. 19 is young, and maybe she’s just not ready for a committed relationship. While I’ve no doubt it hurts, your best approach might be to simply be nice and cool about it, then go ahead and live your life. Who knows what the future may bring. If you’re clingy or weird she will be lost forever, but if you’re cool and carry on with your own independent life, things may change.

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ThrowRAsaddumped OP t1_jab4xu2 wrote

yeah I don’t plan in contacting her anytime soon. She did offer to stay in touch, but i’m not ready for that. I will have to see her at the end of march though because she asked me to sign up for something with her a while back. I think the part that hurt me the most is when I heard she already had a dating profile so soon after dumping me.

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bleep-bloop-meep t1_jab9jpa wrote

4 months isn't really that long of a time to be together. She probably just want to play around some more.

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