Submitted by ThrowRAsaddumped t3_11dvoai in relationship_advice
So my gf (19f) of 4 months just dumped me (19m) outta the blue on Friday. One of her friends had invited me to go hang out at the mall with him and my ex. She had just canceled plans on me that day because she didn’t feel good emotionally. So I went to go check in on her and see if it was okay if I joined. I was hit with a “sorry I have been thinking about this for a while” and she dumped me. She told me that I was supportive and caring and she knew I loved her a lot, but she stopped feeling the same for me. She said she cared for me a lot and I mean so much to her, but it made her feel guilty to talk to me. I tried to ask her if I did anything wrong or if I could have changed anything, but her response was just that her feelings changed for a while and I couldn’t have fixed that. She kept telling me how great and amazing I was. yesterday I found out she was back on dating apps through a mutual. I was super frustrated because it has only been 2 days since our breakup. everything about this has been eating me up inside. All I can think about is how much I want her back. We have never argued or had conflict up until that point and it felt like an amazing relationship.
tl;dr - gf dumped me after 4 months bc she fell out of love despite having no conflicts and enjoying time with me and it has been hurting
How should I cope with this? Should I give up on hope of her coming back?
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