Submitted by ThrowRAlilymilly t3_10som7k in relationship_advice
We been together 5 years (we don’t live together). I treat this man like gold … I always make him feel loved, desired, special. I have always craved that same kind of love from him. In the beginning he used to say it every so often… but now it’s been 3 yrs where he hasn’t said it at all. He is not the most affectionate, heart on his sleeve type of guy. My love language is words of affirmation so as you can imagine Im always feeling bad about how he never says sweet stuff to me. He would get angry with me and break up with me & say he doesn’t feel anything for me or love me. When I leave him alone bc I don’t wanna force anyone to be with me… he comes back every time saying how much he misses me and can never go without me. Usually I take him back. When I tell him I love him he gets mad or just says “k”. When I ask him if he loves me randomly he gets ANGRY with me and says he’s never gonna say it and to stop doing that. He says he doesn’t like to say it to anyone bc that’s not the type of guy he is, that he’s not a very romantic person so it’s hard for him… he said that even if he his moms asked him he’s not gonna say it. He will literally end our relationship if I fight the issue. I just want to feel loved. That’s all. He says he wants to be with me and try with me and all this but to not make him say that. When I bring up the fact that he told me he didn’t before and I just want to make sure I’m not wasting my time he says he said a lot of things he didn’t mean blah blah so why am I holding on to that. I know this may seem immature … but at the same time I CRAVE to be loved by him … the love of my life. It’s getting to the point that I feel we are just friends who have sex bc he’s not the romantic type (unless we break up is when I get anything out of him) … he doesn’t even compliment me, nothing. I don’t want to just break up with him bc he doesn’t say I love you… but then again idk what to do about this. I’d love to hear you guys opinion. Please don’t judge.