Submitted by 557733 t3_10uutd1 in relationship_advice
We’re currently doing LD, 8 months down so far. We’ve FaceTimed 2, maybe 3 times this entire time. We call, but I go months without seeing his face. I let it go and let it go over and over.
We’ve been rocky for 3 months. Our issues are mainly about his effort, but I feel like he’s been punishing me for that.
Anyway, I asked to FT tonight because it’s been over a month since last time. I didn’t do my makeup but I put on a low cut top, washed my hair, even covered my gd light to make it a softer glow.. I feel so stupid and embarrassed.
He said no to FT because he’s not in the right ‘headspace’ to see my face!? What does that even mean.
I’m so embarrassed that I care and that I set the bar so low as to video chat with your girlfriend and he still fails.
Would anyone else put up with this? Am I genuinely stupid for doing so? I feel like an idiot
** I didn’t think many people would see and respond so I didn’t put much detail or info into this. I posted last night when this was fresh and I was upset, but this is just a snippet of our relationship.
He is a good man, and yeah.. okay he doesn’t put the effort in a lot of time but he also isn’t non existent in my life. He’s been helping me send my luggage home because all the paperwork is overwhelming for me, he doesn’t need to do that for me! I don’t want to discount all the good he does for me and know I didn’t paint a great image of him, I’m just sad.
Also we have been together 2 years in total, lived together for 6 months and will have been 9 months LD when I’m home in a few weeks, he’s not a catfish.