Submitted by Icy_Anything3811 t3_10wu8yj in relationship_advice
UPADTE: Thank you everyone for the advice and support. I was deluding and lying to myself this whole time and i didnt realize i was being used. I now tought it through and realized my self worth and that i can do better. Thank you to all of you for opening my eyes and making me realize she isnt worth it.
UPADTE 2: I called her, told her that its over and hung up rather quickly. I got done with her and im going to move on with my life and have some fun dating. Not taking relationships as seriously for now.
Me (M18) and my GF (F18) took a break from our relationship of 2 and a half years and she started dating somebody else. How should I tell her that i dont want her doing that?
So me and my gf have been dating for around 2 and a half years and its been an amazing experience. Recently we had an argument and she said she wants to take a break and not date me for a while. I recently found out that after we took our break she started dating another guy.
(Personally I have big trust issues from my 2 past exes and i really tought she was the one i could trust. This new information breaks me.)
She said herself that she still is in love with me and does plan on getting back with me just she isnt sure how soon but she said she isnt planning on doing this for long. She said her new boyfriend is also aware that she still wants to go back to dating me.
This whole situation is making me feel like im over here being kept as some sort of backup incase her new relationship fails. I love her a lot and want the relationship to work out. I want to tell her that even when were on break it would be better if she didnt date anyone else since it breaks my trust and makes me feel used. For context we already did take a break early in our relationship where she also decided to date some guy but that didnt last long. Im fine with casual hookups but straight up dating someone else feels like im being used.
TL:DR Gf said she wants a break from dating me and goes to date another guy for some time. I feel used as a tool and my trust feels broken.
How should i tell her this without being controlling and looking like im not giving her the break she wants. I need some advice please.