Submitted by [deleted] t3_10z3biy in relationship_advice
We met in high school & have been together for 6 years. I’ve always been overweight but when we met I was at the healthiest I’ve ever been. I still wore XL clothes but I was overall fairly fit and I exercised regularly. After our relationship got serious we moved in together and I picked up his unhealthy habits. We were eating almost identical shitty diets, but I gained a lot of weight and he only gained a little. Now I wear 3x clothes and it’s been impossible for me to prioritize my health because I have a lot more responsibilities and obligations than I did 6 years ago (btw since then I’ve been diagnosed with a thyroid disorder which explains why I gained weight so easily.) He insinuated he doesn’t even like to look at me anymore and I have noticed he has been treating me differently. I still enjoy going out, getting active, and doing activities but now I’m so embarrassed I don’t even want to leave my house. What do I do?
Adding more context to the post because this got way more attention than I expected: I appreciate the kind comments and advice. I really do want to better myself and I can understand gaining a considerable amount of weight can change a relationship, but he had only ever complimented me, so I didn’t realize it was such as issue for him until yesterday. After he told me how he felt I asked him if he would be willing to take on some household duties so that I could have time to focus on myself (I work, take care of the house, and I’m a full time student with lots of homework) and he was very resistant to the idea. I ask him to join me on my walks (having him with me motivates me to walk faster/longer) but he tells me walking isn’t exercise because he only sweats if he runs. I’m really struggling between standing up for myself and being understanding of his preferences and feelings…