Submitted by burneracct0711 t3_10zruhk in relationship_advice
I am going to be receiving a large inheritance soon, around $1.5 million, and my fiancé is upset. How can I let him know this will not change our relationship?
A little background: he grew up in extreme poverty. He wouldn’t eat unless it was school breakfast and lunch and then he’d go to bed hungry. His father was in jail and his mother left him and his brother when they were preteens in a home by themselves for months. At one point the power got shut off.
I grew up the complete opposite. I pretty much got anything I wanted. My first car at 16 was an Audi. I would like to think it didn’t make me a brat. I feel I grew up being a kind and empathetic person. I did work very hard to receive a college degree and now I’m making around $70k a year. My fiancé makes about $40k a year running his own business.
We used to make the joke I was his sugar mama since I’m older and made more money but now that I have a lot more I think he’s worried about our relationship. I even offered to put money into his business so he knows I see this as “our money” and not “my money” (we are getting married in May) but that seemed to upset him more because he said he feels like he’s a charity case. How do I reassure him I love him and this changes nothing?
ETA: I already have a prenup signed. My mom talked me into it because she knew this money was coming even though I didn’t.