Submitted by ThrowRAnickilookz t3_10zwctm in relationship_advice
TL:DR; Best friend thinks I should find out if guys are in relationships before dancing for them instead of just doing my job
I 26F am an exotic dancer, aka stripper. I do have regulars, but 60% of the time, it's just newcomers. I recently had a new regular, and he is a decent guy, I guess. I don't usually ask or even go into detail about my personal life or vice versa because it's just a job to me. I'm not looking to be friends with these guys or anything. But I'm not rude, I will have conversations and be nice.
Well, I was at brunch with one of my best friends, Mark(30M). During this brunch, a random woman came up to me yelling that I ruined her relationship, that I'm a W**** , I'm confused and lost. My friend Mark asks her what's going on, and she goes on to say that her boyfriend has been going to see me at the club I work at and is becoming obsessed with me. I told her there are a lot of guys that come in. She showed me a video of her going thru his phone, and there were pictures of me walking and just talking to other girls there. Im very weirded out because the pictures aren't in a sexual manner they are just of me being normal. She starts crying, calling me a bunch of names, that I'm going to hell, I ruined her life. I must have seduced him. I'm over it. We obviously get kicked out because of the noise. Mark tells me that I shouldn't have entertained him at the club.
I ask him why it is my responsibility to find out and say no to these guys who are taken. I'm there to do my job, not keep these guys in check. A lot of taken guys come to the club. It's not my business. He then went on to tell me to just keep my legs shut, and I wouldn't be in this mess. Mark left all pissed off for some reason, like wtf. How is this my fault at all. I see no mess, I'm definitely not gonna even see him in the club, I'm telling the owner about the pictures.
EDIT: So the stalker bf found out my real name because of the new girl. He asked her questions about me. I guess after that, he did his research. He has been following me for 3 days. His gf found me because he was following me that day I had brunch. I will be taking legal action. I have already talked to my manager & have protection/ security inside & outside the club now.
UPDATE: Went to work last night. Stalker client got arrested after trying to get into the club, starting to confess his "love" for me. The new girl got fired & I'm studying to get a gun. I'm still on the lookout for crazy gf, though.