Submitted by THROWRAcarrillo t3_1115h96 in relationship_advice
My husband works with mainly older women (he's 24) but he does have a co-worker that's around his age. For some reason I feel very jealous when he brings her up, he tells me to not worry and to trust him. He always says that she's like "bro" to him and that one day he's gonna ask her to come over so I can meet her, that way I can get to know who he hangs out with at work and so that I can see how they interact so I don't feel this way. But I still feel really insecure. Today I felt like it was my breaking point. We have this thing where we play paper, rock, scissors to see who is going to do something, for example, take the clothes out the dryer. I know, it's kind of childish haha but we've been doing this since we were dating. It makes us laugh when the other person loses and I felt like it was just OUR thing. Well today, we had our match of paper, rock, scissors and he won so I just started laughing and he said "Linda is so dumb I always beat her too when we play" I immediately stopped laughing and asked him if he played with her too. He said he did and that it's no big deal. He saw that I was upset because my face just completely changed. And he said he plays with everyone even with guy friends. I felt super betrayed, I thought it was OUR thing. I was so upset I just started crying like a little girl. He told me he plays with everyone not just her and he tried to hug me and make me feel better but I wasn't having it. He told me it was special when he plays with me. I don't know if I'm exaggerating, I understand that it's a very common game to play but I just felt so betrayed in that moment. I feel like I can longer play this game the same way with him because it won't feel special anymore. Is it my fault for making this false thing in my head where I thought it was just OUR thing? Am I exaggerating?