Submitted by Electronic_Bit_222 t3_1117geb in relationship_advice
Edit: Thank you so much for all your wonderful insights and suggestions! I ended up talking to my husband about this yesterday and it went down well. He said that he genuinely felt bad that he didn't acknowledge it more. He says the sex was really great and that was the only thing on his mind. He also acknowledged that he sometimes takes for granted the effort I put in. In terms of our sexual compatibility, its just something we have to keep working on. This is something we've had numerous conversations on, and I believe there is frustration built up. Couples therapy is definitely an option to consider.
I have tried everything to spice up my sex life with my husband since we got married 8 months ago. I figured the "easy access" he has to sex with me after we got married made him not care for it as often anymore. I've tried to make it more exiting. Lingerie, talked about introducing sex toys (he said no), sex games, role play. NOTHING sees to have a particular effect on him.
I decided to get a Brazilian for Valentine's Day. This was a huge deal for me. I'm super shy and never imagined that I'd get one, but I thought he would be super blown away if I surprised him with one. I got it on Friday, and he just went to bed on Friday and Saturday. Finally, he was down to have sex on Sunday night, and he made no comment about it. I thought maybe he was just in the moment. After he cleaned himself up I asked him if he "noticed anything different about me." He literally had no clue! I put his hand down there and he just said "oh you shaved." And that was it. I don't know what I was expecting but it was a lot more than that. I just feel SO stupid and embarrassed. I don't know if I'm being dramatic, but I just felt like bawling...I felt so dumb.
Am I just being too sensitive?