Submitted by ThrowRA52954 t3_112bw0l in relationship_advice
My(24M) wife(23F) and I were highschool sweethearts and got married when I was 20 (she was 19). Our relationship has been really great thus far. We don't have a lot of conflict and when we do, we figure out solutions pretty well. Neither of us are really social people so we usually stay in and have fun dates at home. Recently though, she's been wanting to go out a lot with her friends. Every other night basically. They'll stay out super late or sometimes won't come home at all until the next morning. I tried to bring this up with her, but she said she wants to enjoy her twenties and now's the time that she gets to do that. I love that she's become more outgoing, but I can't help but worry at home when she's gone. All I get is a quick message every few hours telling me that she's safe and having fun. I don't want to be controlling, but I also don't want her out so late every other day of the week. And then when she gets home, she's always standoffish and doesn't want to engage with me or tell me what happened during her night out. And before anyone says slmething about it, I know she's not cheating. She posts on her story every half hour or something like that and she's definitely out with friends. I just want advice on how to ask her to reign it in. As I said before, I'm not a social person so I don't want to go out with her. But I don't want her home at 9 or 10 in the morning. What do I do?