Submitted by ThrowRAunhappycanuck t3_1137zb2 in relationship_advice
I've been dating a woman for about 3 years now. It started off great, but over time there's been a lot of changes that I have issues with.
Politically she's become very far-right compared to when we first met - antivax, freedom trucker, "Canada is becoming Communist China" - that sort of thing. Because she refuses to get vaccinated, she's stopped receiving secondary education and is working a minimum wage job living paycheck to paycheck. She keeps adopting pets despite not being able to afford them. She has also taken to questioning me with horoscope videos that she watches on youtube, asking if i'm cheating on her and want to break up because of our age difference based on what they've said about my sign that day. I've watched her go from being a wonderful woman who loves animals and her family to...whatever this is. We don't share the same values, i'm not seeing any desire from her to improve her situation, and frankly most days it feels like i'm dating a conspiracy theorist.
Problem is, I can't seem to find a good moment to sit down and break up with her. Any time I think there's a moment of calm, something happens. Her pets die, there's a cancer scare, someone in the family passes away. Most recently she's been finalizing a years-long divorce with her ex husband who she's been living with and now needs to find a place to live in a city where she'll have to downsize a lot in order to afford.
I don't want to break up with her while she's in a bad spot, but i'm having a real heck of a time finding a time where she isnt in a bad spot in some shape or form. How do I go about splitting up, and when would be the right time to do it?