Submitted by flimsy_space t3_117lopw in relationship_advice
Hi, all! I know, I know. i shouldn’t have snooped through my boyfriend’s things. but I did so now i’m lost.
My boyfriend and i have been together almost 2 years. He’s truly the greatest things to happen in my life. i love him like i’ve never loved anything before and i’m so excited to spend the rest of my life with him. He has been in one other relationship. they were together for 6 years. basically his entire 20’s was with this women. which is fine! i never met her and i think it’s dumb to be jealous of someone from the past. They were broken up for about 4 years when i came into the picture.
Now, he has spoken of this box of his items on multiple occasions. He calls it, “my box of important things.” He’s never showed me it and frankly, i have never asked. However, today i was cleaning the apartment and i decided to look. I was curious and i assumed that if i did ask, he would just show me so no big deal. i assumed it was baby photos or silly item’s his friends have given him throughout the years. Which a lot of it was just that, but there was other stuff as well. About 20 cards from multiple holidays from said Ex. These range from motivational, to thanking him for loving her, to almost love letters, to simple “hello” cards. There is also pictures of her. By herself, as a baby, and them together. There was little notes to each other saying they love each other and love growing together.
I’m besides myself about this. Why does he still have them? Why are they in this “box of important things?” I have NEVER questions his feelings toward me. As i type this, he texted me he loved me. He has given me the best 2 years ever. But this is making me question if i’m just what he settled for… like he couldn’t have her, so why not me. He has told me on multiple occasions he wants to spend forever with me, but this is making me doubt that. Any advice will be great! thanks…