Submitted by [deleted] t3_11ar9rm in relationship_advice
For context, my boyfriend Daniel and I have been together for almost 2 years, we are 20F and 19M
i (20f) almost 21 work at a gymnastics club. tonight we have Adult gymnastics where we play child games like hide and seek but amp it up to make it more adult friendly, and a big majority of my work colleagues are going including Jake (18M) and John (18M). (Jake and John have been 18 for 6 months btw). My boyfriend Daniel is not comfortable with me me going because of these two young boys. I find Jake good looking and i’ve said this to Daniel but like he’s 18 years old and i see him as nothing but a child as he’s almost 3 years younger than me😃.
So. Daniel and I had an argument last night and he said that he probably can’t see me this weekend anyway cause he has work to do for his course he’s doing. I said ok and I planned my day today including the Adult gymnastics social. Earlier today Daniel is now demanding i spend the rest of the day with him saying i’m not allowed to go tonight because of the x2 18 year olds ( bearing in mind the ratio of boys to girls will be 2:15+) and if i go tonight i’m cheating on him.
He is also saying i’m crossing a boundary as he doesn’t want me around the 18 year old boys. I never ever get to do anything social with any of my friends because he always gets annoyed about it. He always got to to clubbing, randomly cancel on me to see his friends, he’s stayed over at a girls house with other guys before and has crossed many of my way more important boundaries
I’m not even going for the teenagers i’m going for the games as they’re playing hide and seek in the dark and much more and i don’t want to miss out
what now?
EDIT: Adult gymnastics social - All coaches come together in the evening at the gymnastics club and play children’s games like hide and seek for example and make it more adult like for example hide and seek in the dark
update : i’m not going, and it’s not because he said not to go but because i’m genuinely not in the mood to go after everything that’s happened. he’s made it all my fault and i just want to chill at home tonight. i’ll go to the next one. again thanks for all the advice guys ❤️
ANOTHER UPDATE: he called me and apologised and said he’s sorry if he upset me today or any other days in the past he didn’t mean to and that he just wanted to see me and didn’t want me going out // i ended up not doing either.
EDIT: i had to tell him what men work with me and then he asked if i found any of them good looking so i had to tell the truth- i never randomly said that he’s good looking i was hounded