Submitted by ThrowRaDamsy t3_11efagf in relationship_advice
I 29f have been married to my husband33m for a year, together for 4. My husband was in a long term relationship from highschool to his early 20s. He has 2 children with this woman ages 14, 12.
My husband had split with this woman because she was unfaithful to a new level. She would bring different men home while he was deployed. He never questioned his kids being his because he was unaware this was happening before his second child was born.
A few weeks ago my husbands ex was trying to skip our weekend with them, and my husband wouldn’t stop bringing it up, and his ex dropped that “Stop caring about him so much, Guess what, he isn’t even your son!” My husband didn’t believe her at first but the anxiety was piling on him, he ended up getting a dna test and his 12 year old was not his.
My husband doesn’t love his son any Less, and he still wants him every week. He raised that boy, he is his son. He though is crushed, he had a breakdown on me crying, my husband went through 2 tours, went through years of ptsd, and this woman made my strong surviving husband cry. I am so heartbroken for him, but have so much rage towards her. He’s trying to decide if he should tell his son or not, but he doesn’t want his son to think his father thinks less of him. My husband is dealing with so many things in his head right now and is hurting so badly. He’s not himself. I just want to help ease some of it. Advice?