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Floralmind_ OP t1_jefwxp2 wrote

Reply to comment by [deleted] in Unable to navigate money issues with my (25F) long term boyfriend (31M) by Floralmind_

Fair answer would be no. I wouldn’t run my business in negatives but I know a lot of startups do and that’s one way to go. That said, it’s putting me in a space to choose money or comforts vs love. I do love him. But seeing a life with him with such raging uncertainties is making me want to run the other direction. I have a bandwidth of how much uncertainty I can handle and that life breaches it many times over. 😔

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Floralmind_ OP t1_jefxtyt wrote

In my head I keep rationalising it as compromises everybody has to make. They don’t come from a well off family. So it’s not like there’s any backup.

It started with oh dial down on the expectations you have for this sort of a wedding and that sort of a home or this kind of jewellery. (This is what I’ve grown up with and while it never was a MUST,it is to an extent how I wanted my life to be)

Now that it’s all coming down to money I feel like crap. We don’t see money and get married cuz there’s something called love and emotions and trust and understanding that’s all important. How have I finally gotten all that only to start from ground0 because they’re not wealthy and he’s so bad with money. 😭

I need somebody to tell me if these are major red flags or they sort eventually. Like maybe a phase. 🥲

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Floralmind_ OP t1_jefz0lf wrote

You’ve been so patient with all of my ranting. Thanks for actually breaking that down for me. What you’re saying does make sense. 🥲

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