Submitted by ThrowRA_dontlikewife t3_11epyxd in relationship_advice
My wife and I have been together for 12 years, married for 5. We have a three-year-old son together.
I've always tried to be a non-confrontational guy. However, in the last couple of years, my wife has gone from a bit sassy to being what is frankly a woman with a terrible personality. Some examples:
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The other day our son was cranky in the morning. I sang a stupid song for him to make him laugh. My wife did not like that one bit. She threw a shitfit about how he was going to "imitate the wrong lyrics." She did not stop talking about how I need to teach him only "the correct lyrics" to songs until I literally shut the door on my way to work. The conversation continued when I got home.
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We went to her parents' house for dinner last night. In front of her entire family, she abruptly started airing out all of my dirty laundry. That I got drunk a few nights before and fell asleep (it was a Saturday night and my first time getting drunk in six months). That I told her to stop shouting at me. Just complaint after complaint. Her family was clearly uncomfortable and when her father responded that she should stop, she immediately adopted this 1000-yard stare.
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She shouted at me on the train a few weeks ago. Crowded train. She legitimately did not give a shit. The reason for this treatment of me was that I tried to call her, and apparently my voice was slightly too loud for her liking. Another train was coming at the time so I was just trying to make myself audible.
I can't bring anything up with her. She just starts shouting "SHUT UP SHUT UP SHUT UP" whenever she's the topic of the conversation. She never wants to hear it. She only wants to yell at me and complain and debate and fight, but I'm not allowed to say a word.
I've come to the sad realization that I no longer like her as a person. Last night after the shit she pulled with her parents, I just stopped talking to her. She'd say something to me, usually another complaint, and I'd refuse to answer. Naturally she did not like this one bit, and so she started throwing a fit and slamming doors around the house.
Is there any coming back from this feeling? It's been brewing in me for the past couple of years and I've hit a breaking point. I can't talk to her. I can't reason with her. She just wants to fight. It's all she likes to do now.
TL;DR: Wife only wants to argue and fight. Is there any coming back from this?