Submitted by ThrowRA2023nic t3_11g50qe in relationship_advice
I (26F) married my husband (26M) last year after dating for 4.5 years. I found out 3 weeks ago about his porn addiction. I didn’t realize he was spending money on it nor how much he was looking at it. It was various sites such as onlyfan, Pateron, fansly, and etc. So far the total is around $18K from the bank statements I could see. He deleted all the accounts so I can’t tell if he messaged them but he’s says he only viewed pictures and videos. I’m not sure what to do. He’s been lying to my face for 4.5 years and I’ve definitely mentioned in the past not being okay with paying for porn. He’s going to therapy and gave me control of his all credit cards but I feel like our entire relationship has been a lie. I just don’t understand how he could marry me and not tell me. I feel taken advantage of and I’m not sure how to heal from this.