Submitted by EmSoupy t3_11mp5mu in relationship_advice
I (22f) have a very close friend (22f) who I’ve grown up with and lives with for many years. We are still very close. Recently she got engaged to her boyfriend, I was so happy an excited for her. We always talked about wedding together and how we’d be bridesmaid and I’d make joke about what I’d say in the speech etc. I actually specifically remember her telling me I’d be a bridesmaid, not maid of honor because even I didn’t want that because it seems to stressful. So once it was time for her to ask her friends and everyone to be her bridesmaids I waited patiently but really excited on whatever she had planned. Then I saw on Facebook she posted on Facebook and Snapchat a thing about asking to be bridesmaids with pictures of everyone she asked with a homemade mug and other stuff . She never asked me and didn’t even tell me I wasn’t going to be before posting it. All the girls she posted (some she wasn’t even that close with) were all the same. Skinny, and very beautiful. Now don’t get me wrong I don’t think I’m ugly, but I am a little overweight, that’s about it.
I decided to text her and ask why I wasn’t invited and she sent “hey I’m really sorry, I thought you wouldn’t like your pictures taken because you don’t like that. There was also just too many people and I needed to cut the people down to be bridesmaids. But trust me you will be front and center <3”
I have said I don’t like my picture taken, but I meant that more of a just me kind of photo.
I don’t know, I could be overthinking it. But we have been damn near best friends for a long while and to not ask me but to ask some girl she doesn’t even know that well but is very attractive? It just doesn’t seem like a coincidence.
Any advice would be wonderful,thanks
Btw English isn’t my first language, so sorry if something’s is wrong.