Submitted by ThrowRA9891 t3_11p4437 in relationship_advice
I’ve known my wife for about nine years and we’ve been married for seven. Lately, when we have sex, she’s been complaining that I’m too wide, that I’m wider than I was before. So wide that it hurts when I get in, stretching her out. She also thinks I’m a bit longer than I was before. To me, my dick looks pretty much the same as it always has as an adult. I don’t take any prescription medications or hormones or steroids. My diet hasn’t substantially changed since any of this has come up. I haven’t noticed any changes at all, myself, but obviously she gets a little closer to it than I do sometimes. And she really thinks I’m like growing and now practically too big for her. (These are on occasions when she’s fully turned on and warmed up and we use lube etc.) She says there are surgeries to make your dick more narrow and has talked about me getting one. The first couple times were kind of jokey and we laughed but she seems much more serious about it now and has mentioned it several times. I hope you all can understand why I am not wild about that idea. How do I address this issue without a. taking a knife to my dick, and b. acting like I don’t care about her discomfort (I do care!)? How do I make her feel good again? Also if anyone has any factual info on whether it is even possible for your dick to grow when you are my age, and if such surgeries exist/what they involve, that would also be helpful. Tl;dr: My wife has started to think my dick is too wide and is actually growing. She wants to talk surgery to change that but I’m not crazy about that idea. Edit: Just want to emphasize again, as I put in the post from the beginning, that we use lube, understand foreplay and arousal. This isn’t a “she’s not turned on” thing.