Submitted by [deleted] t3_11pg6uj in relationship_advice
I married my husband young, I know. My friends and family never failed to note out our age gap, saying it’s nasty amongst all sort of vile things, they often went as far as telling me not to marry him and that it’ll never work out. But he was perfect, so loving and giving. As long as he treated me right I saw age as just a number. He’s smart, good looking, and has an incredible personality, is light hearted and fun to be around, not to mention he had an insane amount of stability that I craved. Let me just clarify he really isn’t the issue, I fully am and I know that.
Lately he’s been getting suspicious about me, started acting controlling and possessive as a respond to something I did, he didn’t like me hanging around male friends, and accused me of cheating which I think is exactly what ultimately pushed me to do it. Not that I’m blaming him for it, I take full accountability for my actions. I have enough self awareness to recognize I did it to feel freedom, I wanted to show him that he can’t control me. It was pity and immature, I did purely out of vengeance. I was at a party with my friends when I met the guy it happened with, I felt horrible after doing what I did, the guilt was and still is unbearable. I didn’t tell anyone about it. I don’t know if I should carry on my life pretending it never happened or just come clean and tell my husband the truth about it, which I think would be for the best, I don’t want him to hear a twisted version from someone else or find out on his own. I’d rather come clean myself.
Anyways, I just really need some advice.