Submitted by ThrowRA_fdfjikj t3_11ppnsn in relationship_advice
We're both medical residents. I'm EM, he's surgery. We started dating our first year of medical school, so we've been together for about 5 years now. I love him, but I don't like him very much. We are such different people with different values, different interests, different visions for our lives. For example, although he's excellent at it, he hates medicine. He's only in it for the money and prestige. That's fine, ppl do it for different reasons. However, it bothers me, because I never did it for the money, but because I genuinely love it. He loves traveling to resorts, I prefer going on medical mission trips. He prefers mingling with ppl at fancy parties, I prefer disappearing and going hiking or mountain climbing. He is solely focused on his career, while I want to do things outside medicine as well. He wants marriage & kids asap, I want to wait. He doesn't believe in God, I do. And he he genuinely thinks he's a hotshot doc (unlike me) and acts like it. While we were in medical school, it didn't bother me as much as it does now. We were so busy studying, there was no time to think about my future with him. But now that I have a bit more time, I caught myself thinking that I don't want him to be the father of my children. I don't want them to be like him. I tried talking to him about all this, suggested therapy, but he is so dismissive, thinks I'm overthinking, said no to therapy. I suggested we take a break from each other, but he said not to even joke like that, that he loves me and needs me and that a break would kill him. He's in a very rigorous program, under a lot of stress and I don't want to add to that stress. How do I walk away from him without breaking him? Also, I still love him. Gosh, I love him so, so much. But in our case, love may not be enough.
How come I don't see most of the comments? Is there an argument going on btw two ppl? lol
Anyway, I realize how stupid this post it. And I know what to do. Thanks anyway