Submitted by DonzZie-17 t3_11so5fa in relationship_advice
I have seen and watched so may advice videos pm both tiktok and youtube about moving on, and that my ex will regret that he left me since i did everything i can to be a really good partner. Changing my job, giving up my dreams, friends, social life (he doesnt want me to go out much and i have a curfew with him, because what kind of decent woman goes out after 9 pm), giving up my pets, adjusting to his time and his wants, and even putting up with his attitude even if he was doing below the bare minimum. I know i was dumb, but i loved him. I gave him my life. I heard my mind literally crack when he called off our wedding and told me he was having second thoughts with our relationship (since he feels he isnt ready yet, he messed up big time for being too over confident with money, and he would always me a second priority after his family), which i had to end 2 weeks after he said this because he was literally ghosting me.
When we broke up, I had to pick myself up from rock bottom. I had to schedule my breakdowns twice a day just to perform well at my new job. watch videos about breakup advices just to keep myself together. It was a fight with myself, and i tried my best to keep it under control while venting out everytime that i can. I concentrated on myself all these months, while he posted and showed me that he was having time of his life since the day we broke up.
Now after 5 months, they were right, they always come back. He followed me on a social app and he messaged me. I just stared at the message. Before i would reply immediately. Now, yes i feel a little sting, but mostly disgust. How is it so easy for him to neglect his fiancee and then message me like nothing happened?? Like what would he expect? That i would just forgive him like nothing happened? My family and friends checked on his profile, and saw that, while i was doing better, he was doing way worse. He was handsome before, now he looked like he aged 10 years and is now uglier, he ranted on social media why he cant find the right girl, and before turns out he was lowkey hinting to people that the reason we broke up is that i cheated, and all those talk of him putting himself first and fixing himself were all cheap talk since he still haven't grown a bit in maturity. How is he this heartless or crazy?