Submitted by throwraracial t3_11tskvr in relationship_advice
I (23M) mostly prefer to date Black and Asian women, and in the past, these are the only women I've ever dated. Now, the reason why I prefer to date these women over other races isn't because i have a fetish for them or because I think that they're fundamentally different than other races. The main reason I have this racial preference is because of aesthetics. I legitimately just think that asian women and black women are more attractive and look better than other races of women. That's it. I don't have any pre-conceived stereotypical notions of how they act or anything (like how some men think Black women are kinky or Asian women are submissive), I just think that their unique physical features look nice.
I was talking about this with my friend (who is white) the other day, and he seemed really weirded out by this. I asked him what was wrong, and he claimed that I was fetishizing these women. I tried to defend myself, but he wouldn't hear me out, and he just ended up changing the topic of the conversation. Am I fetishizing Black and Asian women by having a preference for them because of how they look?