Submitted by throwRAecleve t3_11v5wq2 in relationship_advice
We have been married for 8 years now and have a 6 yo daughter. I always thought we have a very solid marriage and there has never been any instance which you can say was red flag. She has always been a very devoted wife and mom and I thought we were really happy, well that was until 2 days ago.
3 years ago my wife went to a hen party for one of her friends, it was for 4 days and when she came back she was a little stressed for a few days but I never thought too much about it. And she was fine a few days later. It was nothing serious at the time. But in light of recent events I think it her reaction assumes importance.
Now to the most important part as to how I found out about it. Her best friend came to me and told me, she was also on the trip and when my wife was making out with this guy her best friend made a video because she was drunk and thought it was funny at the time. In the video I can clearly see my wife making out with a guy and his hands were on her breasts, they were in a rooftop party and everyone was drunk. I could hear my wife telling the guy it cant happen again but they continued making out till the video ended. Her best friend said she is not sure if they had sex or not but she remembers my wife got to the room in early morning (they were sharing a room).
My original plan was to keep it to myself and investigate some more but my anxiety got the better of me and I confronted my wife. To say she was surprised would be an understatement, she looked as if she had touched a live wire. To her credit she did not deny it but she is adamant that they did not have sex. They just made out and cuddled but no sex. I am absolutely devastated right now and staying in a hotel till I get my thoughts in order. My first instinct was to file for divorce but we have a 6 yo and I dont want to see her every other week. So I am even more confused. And I think I still love my wife but I have 0 trust in her now and that is not going to be a healthy marriage too.
So I could really use some advise and support here.