Submitted by ThrowRAanonymoussss t3_11wfhl7 in relationship_advice
My gf (29F) still drinks like we did when we met in Uni. She has never liked casual drinks and she only ever wants to go for drinks at a pub, so weekends are still basically shitfaced or nothing. When we are out its so difficult to get her to leave once shes started drinking, unless the place is literally closing and we're being kicked out. Most weekends she drinks until she throws up and is then in bed all-day the next day.
I've always liked going on the piss and I still love doing that with my mates (which is only occasionally now because that's life). However, when I'm with my partner now I'd prefer to have just casual drinks.
I guess where I'm at atm is I'm now feeling that drinking with my partner isn't fun anymore, and the evening really isn't worth the hangover. If we do go out for drinks I literally have to wait until she's done because it wouldnt feel right to just leave her there, so it normally ends with me just waiting for her to: a) decide she's finished which is rare, b) the place thankfully closes (in which case she's looking for somewhere else or trying to buy cans to drink at home), or c) she is that drunk after being sick in the toilets she needs to be brought home.
Maybe I've become boring at 30, or has anyone else got to this point? How do you go about dealing with this situation?
EDIT: Wow, this really blew up. Thanks for all the replies. It's taken a while to read through them all, but there seems to be a general consensus. I must say, though, it's not a drinking everyday situation, but it is every time we do drink situation (I.e. weekends).
I actually do voice it all the time to her that I'm done with the same thing every weekend, but i guess i let it go again until the next time it happens. I think it's about time that a real sit-down chat is needed. Thanks all x