Submitted by ThrowRAman_89 t3_11xr9pc in relationship_advice
My girlfriend (31 F) has lived her entire life at her parents house and has never lived on her own. She is extremely close with her family and says she never wants to ever leave the place in Ohio where she has grown up. I, on the other hand, find Ohio very boring and way too cold. I want to live somewhere down south for the opportunities and better weather. I even made a concession and said we can live in Ohio for many years and then we could move away to another place where I would want to live to both get what we want (partly). She still says no, she wants to die in Ohio because she always wants to be right there for family even though I told her I would personally pay for a flight for her to see family when she wanted to if we moved. I'm trying to be as reasonable as possible but she won't budge. This has caused a lot of stress for us as well as her lack of independence (her parents do quite a bit for her while she lives at home such as cook dinner and buy groceries). It sucks because we have tons of chemistry and attraction towards one another and I do love her very much. What is advised in this situation and could this just be a lost cause? Thanks for the advice.