Submitted by throwra93tr t3_11ygqmx in relationship_advice
We currently live together raising our 5-month-old baby. We have not really been together for a few years. I’ll give a simple timeline. Started dating in 2017, broke up 2019, started hooking up in 2021, she got pregnant, we moved in together 7 months ago and started sleeping together again 3 months ago. I want to be with her, and I’ve made that clear to her, but she doesn’t want the same thing, so we have just been hooking up. I’m over it.
We’re living in the same house, raising a baby, acting like a couple, but she doesn’t see us being in a relationship? I decided to have some respect for myself and I will no longer have sex with her if we are not in a committed relationship, and I’m serious. I’ve explained all of this to her but she must’ve thought I was bluffing. Last night she really tried and I rejected her again, and she said that it seemed like a form of manipulation. I’m not trying to force her to be with me, why would I want to be in a relationship with someone that feels forced to be with me? I’m just saying that I no longer want to act as if we are a couple if there is no commitment. I just want to ask if I'm going about this the right way.