Submitted by throwRAjdismjsjxnd t3_11yz1fc in relationship_advice
Please don't let this end up in a minecraft tiktok.
We have the usual problems, he finishes and afterwards lacks the drive to do anything for me, he struggles to finish me off and I get awkward and tell him it's fine for him to just finish without me (my fault, I know). Yknow the usual shit.
But the main issue is that gets bored and drifts off if things aren't focused on him. There are some things I LOVE that might take a little time and attention on me and he can do it for on average ~2 mins and then gives up and moves on to penetrative sex. I've made it so clear that I could finish if he just gave me a little more attention that was non penetrative and he acknowledges it. But I can see the lights go out in his brain when what we're doing doesn't revolve around his stimulation. Is there any way I can better, more firmly get my point across? Because he does claim that he feels bad that I don't finish, but then he just can't concentrate on doing one thing I like for long enough to get me there, or even close.
It's genuinely effecting my sex drive and I blame it on my IUD but its because sex just isn't enjoyable anymore, or when it is its only for like 3 mins and then we move on to him getting to cum, and it being over. I just zone out and wait for it to be over to be perfectly honest. Thanks in advance