Submitted by ThrowRA1990012 t3_11z3adm in relationship_advice
TLDR; Cum dumpster cheats on me and wanted a second chance. I told her no. I am broken.
It has been a couple of months since this happened. I haven't spoken to anyone or posted anything. I thought it would get easier as time went on, but it is only getting worse.
We had been together for 10 years. When she went through pregnancy, I told her not to work and I would support her for as long as she liked. She didn't work for 5 years, and I paid for everything, always made sure there was food on the table.
We hit a rough patch in our relationship. I was having to work overtime to pay bills and was stressed out and she wasn't pulling her weight around the house. I would get home and have to organize dinner, clean the house etc. Fast forward to a few months later and she breaks up with me out of no-where, explaining that she didn't love me anymore. Fast forward another few months and she's back on my doorstep wanting a second chance. I asked her some questions and she confessed to cheating. She told me she went to get coffee one morning and got chatting to this guy at the coffee shop. One thing led to another, and they exchanged details. While I was at work and our child was asleep, they were fucking each other on the reg.
The thing that gets me the most is this guy had absolutely nothing going for him, he wasn't even attractive. Apparently, he was just a good liar and made her believe he was some rich millionaire which was enough to make her leave me for "a better lifestyle".
I told her to shove it and she has been chasing me ever since, once minute abusing me the next crying wanting me back. This has completely destroyed me. My confidence is gone after seeing who she left me for. I feel like I am worthless. Not sure where to go from here... My trust in people has gone. I am seeing a therapist which isn't helping. Any advice to move on with my life and never look back would be greatly appreciated.
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EDIT:
I appreciate all the comments and kind words and would love to write back to all of them, I didn't expect this to get so many comments. A lot of people are criticizing me for calling my ex a "Cum dumpster" and telling me I hate women. You all are quick to jump to conclusions. If you went through what I have been through, including years of suicidal thoughts from being in an emotionally abusive relationship, only to be cheated on, you too would be calling your ex every name under the sun. I don't mean to be rude but anyone who took offence to that really need to open their eyes and look at the world around them. Anyone can be called a Cum Dumpster, men, women, animals, an actual dumpster full of cum, it makes no difference. If you are male, you are male. If you are female, you are female (and every other gender now). If you let random idiots fill you with cum, you are a cum dumpster. I am far from a misogynist, and it is actually incredibly amusing seeing some of you call me one, when you quite clearly have no idea who I am or what my beliefs are. I must have hit a couple of nerves, but that is fine. The fact that you take the name "Cum Dumpster" as an attack on all women.... crazy.... I hope one day you wake up and don't kick people when they are down, because one day the person you kick when they are down could potentially take their own life.
Also for the record. My child will never find out about this. My child will never be poisoned by me against their mother. My child is my number 1 priority and will be for the rest of my life.