Submitted by Alternative-Pen5931 t3_11zdu5u in relationship_advice
My girlfriend (of 1 year) is friends with her ex of 4 years and they broke up about 2 years ago. However, they have a dog that they share. She says she has zero sexual attraction to him anymore which I kind of believe. But they’re still really friendly. Text every day… share photos, jokes, etc. However, I snooped thru her phone b/c I thought she was acting a little off and (although I didn’t find anything really bad) I found out that she asked him to meet her at the park to play with their dog together while I was at work. And… she never asked or told me about it. She is also having him fix work glasses for her and check on her parents.
She talks about getting married and says that she loves me like no one ever before. But I feel that all of this is just too abnormal and she must still feel something for him (even if it’s not sexual). I know that ITA for checking her phone, but all of this is just so strange to me and I can’t believe she met with him and didn’t tell me. What do you guys think?
Fwiw - I have talked to her several times about how uncomfortable it makes me feel and that I want them to just keep their relationship about the dog. She says it is mainly about the dog (but really they act like they’re best friends… if not more).