Submitted by [deleted] t3_12018fe in relationship_advice
I (18F) am getting married to my fiancé (19M) in a few weeks. We’re LDS, so we’re having a temple marriage. However, we will be having a wedding reception for those who are unable to attend the actual wedding.
My family is very religious and we all follow the teachings of the church very closely, so a few years when my sister came out as lesbians my family had a huge problem with it. I never really cared because I don’t believe it’s my place to judge anyone. My sister was 17 when a family friend told my parents that they saw her kissing another girl at a homecoming dance. This caused my parents to lash out at her, and it really put a strain on their relationship. Right after my sister graduated she moved out, and moved into an apartment with her friend she was kissing at homecoming. She stopped talking to our family for 3 years, but recently we got back in touch when I invited her to my wedding.
My sister (21F) was thrilled for me, but she said she was unsure if she would be in attendance. I begged her and told her this could be the start of our family healing. We have three other siblings who also don’t speak with my sister, and she expressed how much she misses them. She told me she would think about it and get back to me.
My sister and I started talking more and more, and comes to find out she’s also engaged to her friend from homecoming! When I ask her if she’s thought about if she wants to come to the wedding reception she says she’ll be more than happy to if she can bring her friend.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m happy that my sister is happy, but I feel like her bringing her friend will take the attention off my fiancé and me. I express my feeling that I don’t really like the idea, and she tells me that if she can’t bring her friend she’s not comfortable coming to my wedding. I feel like this is completely unfair because this day is about me and my husband.
My post gotten taken down else where because there was too much debate. I’m looking for genuine advice for this situation.